Friday, May 18, 2007

"Beer Balls"

Thank you all so much for your lovely comments! It made me feel so good to hear from you all.

So, I must say that this week was very uneventful health-wise. I did not make my exercise goal, hell, I didn't even exercise once! I have reduced my goal to just 60 minutes for next week hoping that I can at least do the CardioSculpt DVD twice.

While health-wise it was a boring week, school-wise it was very exciting ... I'm DONE! I had my last class and presentation on Tuesday evening and I just, minutes ago, emailed my professor my last paper. It is over! It feels both good and scary. Good because it has been an interesting two years, scary because I don't have a job yet, or even a good lead on one. But I'm going to a big city in a few weeks for an informational interviewing/networking trip (and to see some friends) so hopefully that will kick-start things into gear.

I did have something crappy happen to me, but I'm trying not to dwell on it. I was at a bar with a bunch of people from school and we were all drinking. After the 5th or 6th beer, (I know, I know, it's a lot, but it was over the span of 5 hours and I don't drink that often) one of my classmates started to look pretty cute, so I texted him (because he was across the table from me). He answered back and for about 90 minutes we were texting. Then the evening came to an end and I had already said I wasn't driving home b/c I had had too much to drink and was going to sleep on a friend's couch, but then I had the brilliant idea that he could drive me home b/c he lives in my town. He said he would, no problem. So we are chatting the whole way and then got to my apartment. I kissed him on the cheek for being nice and driving me home and he smiled, so I went to kiss him for real and he TURNED AWAY! I think I said something to the effect of "you f*cking asshole" and slammed the car door shut. I am like, how did I mis-read the signals so badly? It totally seemed like he was interested. But now that I type this I am starting to think that I totally read something into the situation that wasn't there. We have flirted before, but nothing ever happened. I just feel like such a dork and he is TOTALLY going to tell his friends about this. That being said, I don't know what I saw in him if he's the kind of person who would do that. Actually I do, I'm only interested in him when I've been drinking. Nice, huh. So, basically I am completely incompetent when it comes to guys and shallow. I told one of my friends this story and she said I had "beer balls" for making the first move. I had never heard that one before, but it made me laugh. Actually, writing this down has made me feel better. Maybe now I can stop beating myself up over it.

So just remember, if you are ever looking for advice about guys - take anything I say worth a grain of salt!


VegasGirl said...

Congrats on being done with school!

I feel you on the excercise goals. *sigh* I didn't make mine at all this week either.

As for the guy, maybe he was just trying to be nice and not take advantage of you? Just remember, there might be another reason for his actions =)

angelfish24 said...

Glad to hear you are done with school! I know what relief you must feel.
Yeah, my exercise is waning a bit too this week but I'll be back at it tomorrow. You can too!
Bummer, about the guy. It is real hard to figure out what guys want. I would always let them make the first move way back when as I didn't want to be crushed. It's ok to let loose and drink once in a while, sounds like a big occasion. Way to go on being safe and not driving. I've never heard the term beer balls either.

jen said...

The thought of kissing someone who's drunk when I'm sober is pretty repulsive to me. But if he's going to laugh about you to his friends, then he's probably not the kind of guy you'd want to kiss, ever.

Hope that it turns out that he was just trying to be nice like Vegas Girl said.

I think that a cell phone with a breathalyzer would be a really good idea -- no more drunk dials/texts. :)

TrixieBelden said...

Hey guys,

Thanks for the insightful comments on my less than insightful performance. You've all made really good points - like Jen's "The thought of kissing someone who's drunk when I'm sober is pretty repulsive to me" was priceless and so true. I am just so embarrassed at this point. I was looking forward to graduation, but now I feel like an idiot and don't want to see anyone b/c I know the rumor mill will have picked this up by then. At least I will look good in my black dress and peep toe pumps!

Lily T said...

You could have been reading the signals wrong or maybe he turned away because you were drunk and he didn’t want to take advantage of you? If that’s the case then you have a stand up guy. If he makes fun of you with his friends then he’s not and you can move on. I know that rejection is embarrassing but I’m so glad that you took a chance (bear balls or not).

Jules said...

You never know unless you take a punt and sometimes you need the dutch courage of some alcohol to help you make that first move.

If I hadn't been completely pissed, I would never have gone up to Blair (one of my best friends) and given him a big hug and a kiss and told him I was stoked he was there and that he was coming home with me that night. He could have responded by saying "umm, I don't think so" but he was stoked and I later found out that he had "been in love with me" since about 4 years previous!!

Put it down to a good experience because you weedled out a bad one. Onto the next one and maybe the father of your children (I ended up with four!!)

Lori said...

Don't worry about what happened; I think Vegasgirl is probably correct and if he's a jerk, he's a jerk. It's just a kiss!

(He could also be someone who was surprised and didn't know what to do and may be smacking himself for not kissing you back.)

Sometimes you do need to be bold instead of wishing. I do like the terms beer balls. :-)

I hope graduation was fun and you had good weather for it. And I hope your parents liked your apt.

Vanessa said...

Congratulations on being finished with school! I'm sure the perfect job is just around the corner but for now you should enjoy the feeling of accomplishment.

Bummer about the guy but I also think you should think of it as good practice. Flirting (like job interviews) is a learned skill and takes practice to perfect. You want to be ready when you do meet that perfect guy! As for being embarrassed to go to graduation - don't be silly. You were drunk! You have an excuse for your behaviour! ;)

BigAssBelle said...

so sorry, miss trixie. i admire you for having the balls, beer or otherwise. i am of the never-make-the-first-move school, though this story brought up a single instance in my drunken partying life pre-1982. ugh. did i ever have vodka balls. bad memory.

men are always making the first move and not getting the response they're after. i kind of doubt (hope) this is nothing to him, that he'll recognize it for a drunken pass and just blow it off rather than discussing it with everyone. not sure that guys do that as much as we do. may not be the case, maybe he's put it in the paper :-) but i think and hope not.

Gynipher said...

Your last post is very inspiring! I wish you the best with your efforts yet to come!